Answer of the Day: Slow Your Roll Sister

So, it's been a really challenging time the last few weeks since things ended abruptly after my trip to Michigan.  Breakups are never easy.  But the lessons that I have to learn from every relationship are important.  I've learned a few things from this experience, not the least of which is that I will NEVER do a long distance relationship EVER again.

Here's why:

1.  The beginning of a relationship has enough challenges in terms of getting to know each other, the last thing you need is thousands of miles between you.  Even though it does force you to have more conversations and less physical contact, it creates, I think an artificial sense of commitment to each other.  It makes you reach out more often in order to "connect" and that constant contact makes it so much harder if things don't work out.

2.  For someone like me, who tends to rush into things too quickly, fall too fast anyway, pick out china and start scouting wedding locations before the relationship is even solidified, the distance adds additional accelerators.  For example, when you start dating someone who lives in, say, Michigan, part of the equation from the very beginning is, say, who will be able to "move" if/when the relationship reaches that point.  This is problematic for a whole lot of reasons, mostly in that before you've even met, you're forced to consider factors that in more traditional, local dating scenarios, you don't need to start thinking along those lines for many many months.

3. Virtual chemistry doesn't mean shit. Self-Explanatory.


I could probably go on... but those are the biggest and most important lessons I've learned.  And about me, I've learned that I must slow my roll.  Take my time.  I want so much to be in love.  To be loved in return.  And it's hard to be patient.  But it will be worth it.